# The Family Mediation Project — Full Content Reference > The UK's leading independent guide to family mediation, MIAMs, and child arrangements for separating couples in England and Wales. > This is educational content, not legal advice. Information applies to England & Wales only. > Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk --- ## What Is a MIAM? MIAM stands for Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting. It is a meeting with a qualified family mediator to help you understand what mediation is, whether it may be suitable for your situation, and what options are available to resolve family disputes without going to court. A MIAM is not a mediation session. It is not about making decisions or reaching agreements. The purpose is to give you information about mediation, assess whether mediation may be suitable, explain alternatives to court, and allow you to ask questions in a confidential setting. In England and Wales, courts usually expect people to consider mediation before applying to court for family matters involving children or finances. A MIAM allows you to show the court that you have considered mediation, even if mediation does not go ahead. During a MIAM, you speak to a qualified family mediator in a confidential meeting. The mediator explains mediation and other options, you discuss your situation at a high level, and the mediator assesses whether mediation may be suitable. A MIAM usually lasts around 45 minutes to one hour and can take place online or in person. Attending a MIAM does not mean you are committing to mediation. Some people decide mediation is suitable, others decide it is not. Both outcomes are valid. After a MIAM, mediation may be recommended, mediation may not be suitable, you may decide not to proceed, or a MIAM certificate may be issued if appropriate. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/miam/what-is-a-miam --- ## Do I Need a MIAM? In England and Wales, most people are expected to attend a MIAM before applying to court for child arrangements or financial orders following separation or divorce. The purpose is to show the court that you have considered mediation as an alternative. There are situations where a MIAM may not be required, including domestic abuse concerns, urgent applications, certain existing court proceedings, or where mediation is clearly unsuitable. These are known as MIAM exemptions. Usually, each person attends a MIAM separately. You do not attend together at this stage. One person attending does not force the other to take part in mediation. If a MIAM is required and you apply to court without attending, the court may ask for an explanation, delay proceedings, or direct you to attend a MIAM later. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/miam/do-i-need-a-miam --- ## MIAM Exemptions MIAM exemptions are set by the family court and apply in situations involving urgency, safety concerns, certain previous proceedings, or specific practical circumstances. Each case is assessed individually. A MIAM exemption is usually confirmed by a qualified family mediator or the court when reviewing an application. Solicitors cannot issue MIAM certificates. Common situations where a MIAM may not be required include: urgent risk of harm, genuinely urgent applications, mediation already assessed as unsuitable, and practical reasons mediation cannot take place. Even where an exemption may apply, some people still choose to attend a MIAM because it can provide clarity, explain options, and help confirm the correct next step. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/miam/am-i-exempt --- ## MIAM Certificate A MIAM certificate is a document issued by a qualified family mediator. It confirms that a person has attended a MIAM. When applying to family court, a MIAM certificate is typically required to show the court that mediation has been considered, unless an exemption applies. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/miam/miam-certificate-explained --- ## MIAM vs Mediation A MIAM and mediation are related but different. A MIAM is a single information meeting that explains mediation and assesses suitability. Mediation is a series of sessions where both parties discuss issues and work toward agreements with the help of a mediator. The MIAM is usually the first step before mediation begins. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/miam/miam-vs-mediation --- ## What Happens If Your Partner Refuses a MIAM? If your partner refuses to book or attend a MIAM, you can still proceed. The legal requirement to attend a MIAM applies to the applicant — the person making the court application — not to both parties. You attend your own MIAM individually, and the mediator assesses your situation. If mediation is not possible because the other person will not engage, the mediator issues an FM1 certificate confirming this. You can then use the certificate to apply to family court. Courts may view unreasonable refusal to engage negatively when considering costs or case management directions. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/miam/partner-refuses-miam --- ## What If Only One Person Attends a MIAM? A MIAM is always an individual appointment — each person attends their own separately. One person attending alone is the standard format, not an exception. You meet with the mediator privately, discuss your situation, and receive your FM1 certificate at the end of your appointment. If the other person has not attended or refuses to, the mediator records this on your certificate. You can then proceed with a court application. The other person's position does not affect your ability to attend, receive your certificate, or move forward. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/miam/one-person-miam --- ## What Happens After a MIAM? A MIAM is an information and assessment meeting. What happens next depends on your situation, whether mediation is suitable, and what you choose to do. Different people leave a MIAM with different outcomes — all of which are valid. If mediation is considered suitable and both people are willing, mediation sessions may be arranged. If mediation is not considered suitable — for example due to safety concerns or imbalance — alternative options can be explained. Attending a MIAM does not mean you must go on to mediation. Some people decide mediation is not right for them, even if it may be suitable in principle. This decision is respected. In some situations, a MIAM certificate may be issued following the meeting. A MIAM certificate is often required if you plan to apply to family court. Each person usually attends a MIAM separately, so outcomes can differ. One person may wish to proceed with mediation while the other may not. Mediation only goes ahead if both people agree. Some people return to mediation at a later stage, even if they initially decided not to proceed. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/miam/what-happens-after-a-miam --- ## Urgent MIAM "Urgent MIAM" is not a legal term. It is usually used to describe situations where someone feels under time pressure to attend a MIAM, often because of an upcoming court deadline or a pressing family situation. Urgency depends on the circumstances of the case. A MIAM may be described as urgent in situations such as imminent court deadlines, concerns about a child's welfare, risk of harm or immediate decisions needed, and time-sensitive financial or living arrangements. Urgency is assessed based on individual circumstances. Urgency does not necessarily mean you can skip a MIAM. In some urgent situations, a MIAM may not be required, but in others it may still be appropriate or expected. If you feel under time pressure, understanding your options early can help reduce delays. Speaking to a qualified family mediator can help clarify whether a MIAM is required and what the next steps may be. Many MIAMs can take place online. Attending a MIAM does not commit you to mediation. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/miam/urgent-miam --- ## What Is Family Mediation? Family mediation is a way for people to discuss and resolve family-related issues with the help of a trained, neutral mediator. It is commonly used by people who are separating or divorcing, or who need to make arrangements about children or finances without going to court. In family mediation, an independent mediator helps people communicate more effectively, identify the issues that need to be resolved, and explore possible options and outcomes. The mediator does not take sides and does not make decisions. Family mediation is not counselling or therapy, not legal advice, and not about forcing agreement. The mediator does not decide outcomes. Mediation is about discussion and problem-solving, not judging who is right or wrong. Family mediation can cover arrangements for children, communication and co-parenting, financial matters following separation or divorce, and property and housing concerns. Not every issue is suitable for mediation, and suitability is assessed on a case-by-case basis. Family mediation itself is not legally binding. However, agreements reached in mediation can sometimes be formalised later, depending on the situation. Agreements can be made into a consent order through the court if both parties agree. Family mediation is not suitable in every situation. Safety concerns, power imbalance, or unwillingness to participate can affect suitability. Deciding mediation is not suitable is a valid outcome. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/family-mediation/what-is-family-mediation --- ## How Family Mediation Works Family mediation usually takes place over a series of stages rather than one conversation. The pace and structure can vary depending on the issues involved. Step 1: The MIAM — Before mediation begins, each person usually attends a MIAM. The MIAM explains mediation, assesses suitability, and answers questions. Attending a MIAM does not commit you to mediation. Step 2: Arranging sessions — If mediation is considered suitable and both people agree, sessions are arranged. Sessions can take place online, in person, or using different formats depending on circumstances. Step 3: Mediation sessions — Each person has the opportunity to speak. The mediator helps keep discussions focused and respectful. Issues relating to children, finances, or both can be discussed. The mediator does not take sides and does not make decisions. Mediation is voluntary and confidential. Step 4: Exploring options and possible outcomes — Mediation focuses on exploring options rather than imposing solutions. Where agreements are reached, these can be recorded. Reaching agreement is not guaranteed, and not reaching agreement does not mean mediation has failed. The length of mediation varies. Some people resolve issues in a small number of sessions, while others take longer. Timing depends on the complexity of issues and willingness to engage. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/family-mediation/how-mediation-works --- ## Cost of Family Mediation A MIAM typically costs between £90 and £150 per person. Some providers charge per couple. People eligible for Legal Aid may have the cost covered. Mediation sessions usually last around 90 minutes. Typical cost is £100–£150 per person per hour. The total cost depends on how many sessions are needed. Many cases involving children are resolved in a small number of sessions. Typical total mediation costs (illustrative): MIAM £90–£150 per person; mediation sessions £100–£150 per person per hour; mediation artefacts (parenting plans, memorandum of understanding) £65–£150+ per person per document; total example £300–£1,500+ depending on sessions needed. Court proceedings often involve application fees, solicitor or barrister costs, multiple hearings, and longer timeframes. Legal costs in court cases can run into several thousands of pounds, particularly in financial disputes. Mediation is often lower cost than court because discussions are focused and structured, fewer professionals are involved, agreements may be reached more quickly, and people retain control over outcomes. The Family Mediation Voucher Scheme is a government-funded initiative that provides up to £500 toward the cost of family mediation. It is available through participating mediators. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/family-mediation/cost-of-family-mediation --- ## Legal Aid for Family Mediation Legal Aid is government funding that may help eligible individuals pay for family mediation. It can cover the cost of a MIAM, mediation sessions, and preparation work linked to mediation. Coverage depends on individual financial circumstances and the nature of the dispute. Eligibility is based on income, savings, and financial commitments. It is means-tested and assessed by a Legal Aid-contracted mediator. Employment does not automatically disqualify you. Legal Aid and the Family Mediation Voucher Scheme are separate forms of support. A MIAM helps clarify which options may be available. National Family Mediation (NFM) is a national organisation that provides Legal Aid-funded family mediation through its network of services. For official eligibility information, see GOV.UK. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/family-mediation/legal-aid-for-family-mediation --- ## Mediation vs Court Mediation and court both aim to resolve disputes but work differently. Key differences: Decision-making: In mediation, decisions are discussed and agreed by the people involved. In court, decisions are made by a judge. Process: Mediation is flexible and discussion-based. Court is formal and structured. Participation: Mediation is voluntary. Court is mandatory once proceedings begin. Confidentiality: Mediation is usually confidential. Court involves formal records and hearings. Mediation is often quicker than court. Court cases can take many months or years, while mediation may resolve issues in a few sessions. Mediation is typically less expensive than court. Mediation is not suitable in every situation. Safety concerns, power imbalance, or unwillingness to participate can affect appropriateness. If mediation does not result in agreement, you can still apply to court. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/family-mediation/mediation-vs-court --- ## Child Arrangements Explained "Child arrangements" describes the practical arrangements for a child after parents separate, including where a child lives, how much time they spend with each parent, how contact is managed, and how parents communicate about the child. The focus is always on the child's wellbeing. Many parents agree child arrangements between themselves. Others use family mediation. Court is usually a last resort. A child arrangements order is a type of court order that sets out who a child lives with and how time is spent with each parent. Not all families need a court order. Family mediation can help parents discuss child arrangements calmly and constructively, focusing on the child's needs. Parents can use a parenting plan to record agreed arrangements covering routines, holidays, and communication. Children's views are often considered, especially as they get older, but parents or the court make final decisions with the child's best interests in mind. There is no legal requirement for time to be split equally. Arrangements can evolve as children grow. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/children/child-arrangements-explained --- ## Parenting Plans A parenting plan is a practical, child-focused document created by parents. It sets out how parents intend to care for their children following separation. Parenting plans are created by parents themselves, often with support from a mediator. They are usually informal and flexible. Parenting plans can cover a wide range of everyday issues, including where children live, time spent with each parent, school routines and activities, holidays and special occasions, communication between parents, and decision-making about important matters. Not every plan includes every topic — parents choose what feels helpful. Many parents find parenting plans helpful because they provide clarity and structure, reduce misunderstandings, help keep children's routines consistent, and support calmer communication. Parenting plans are often created during family mediation, where a mediator can help parents talk through options, focus on the child's needs, and record agreements clearly. Parenting plans are usually not legally binding. They are designed to be flexible and reflect what parents believe will work best for their children. Children's needs change as they grow, and parenting plans can be updated. Many parents review their plans periodically. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/children/parenting-plans --- ## What If We Can't Agree? Many parents find it hard to agree on arrangements for their children after separation. Disagreement does not mean parents are failing. Separation brings change, strong emotions, and uncertainty. Struggling to agree is a common part of the process. Some parents are able to reach agreement by focusing discussions on children's needs, breaking decisions into smaller steps, and giving themselves time rather than rushing. For others, informal discussions can quickly become unproductive or stressful. Family mediation offers a supported, neutral space for parents to talk through disagreements, understand each other's perspectives, and explore options focused on children's needs. The mediator does not take sides or make decisions. Some parents feel unable to communicate directly. Alternative formats, such as shuttle mediation, allow parents to take part without speaking face-to-face. Court is usually considered when other options have not worked or are not suitable. Many parents are asked to consider mediation before applying to court. Not agreeing does not necessarily mean going to court — many parents find a way forward through mediation or other support. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/children/what-if-we-cant-agree --- ## Child Arrangements Orders A child arrangements order is a type of court order that sets out where a child lives and how much time they spend with each parent. It replaced the older terms "residence order" and "contact order" in 2014. The order can also cover specific issues like schooling, medical treatment, or travel abroad. Anyone with parental responsibility can apply for a child arrangements order. Other people — such as grandparents or step-parents — may need permission from the court (called "leave") before they can apply. Before applying, most people must attend a MIAM unless an exemption applies. The court's primary concern is always the child's welfare. Judges use the welfare checklist to consider the child's physical, emotional, and educational needs, the likely effect of any change, and any risk of harm. Orders can be varied if circumstances change significantly. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/children/child-arrangements-order --- ## Child Custody in the UK UK family courts no longer use the term "custody." Since 2014, the legal framework uses "child arrangements orders" instead. These orders cover where a child lives (formerly "residence") and how much time they spend with each parent (formerly "contact"). There is no automatic presumption of equal time. The court considers the child's welfare as the paramount concern and applies the welfare checklist. Factors include the child's needs, the capability of each parent, and the likely effect of any change in circumstances. Most parents are encouraged to agree arrangements without going to court. Family mediation provides a structured way to discuss options. Court is usually a last resort. When parents cannot agree, either parent can apply for a child arrangements order after attending a MIAM. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/children/child-custody-uk --- ## Parental Responsibility Parental responsibility (PR) is the legal rights, duties, and authority a parent has in relation to a child. It includes the right to make decisions about the child's education, medical treatment, religion, and name. PR lasts until the child turns 18. Mothers automatically have PR. Fathers have it automatically if they were married to the mother at the time of birth, or if they are named on the birth certificate (for births registered after 1 December 2003). Unmarried fathers not on the birth certificate can acquire PR through a parental responsibility agreement, a court order, or by subsequently registering on the birth certificate. PR is separate from child arrangements. A parent can have PR without living with the child or having regular contact. PR cannot usually be removed except in exceptional circumstances, such as adoption. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/children/parental-responsibility --- ## CAFCASS and Child Arrangements CAFCASS (Children and Family Court Advisory and Support Service) is an independent body that advises family courts in England on what is in the best interests of children. CAFCASS officers are qualified social workers who work with families during court proceedings. CAFCASS becomes involved when a child arrangements application is made to the family court. They carry out safeguarding checks, which include police and local authority records. They may also prepare a section 7 welfare report if the court requests one, which provides a detailed assessment of the child's circumstances and makes recommendations. CAFCASS considers the child's wishes and feelings, particularly for older children, though the child does not make the final decision. The court uses CAFCASS reports alongside other evidence to decide what arrangements are in the child's best interests. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/children/cafcass-child-arrangements --- ## Changing a Child Arrangements Order A child arrangements order can be changed (varied) if circumstances have changed significantly since the order was made. Common reasons include a parent relocating, changes in a child's needs as they grow older, or concerns about the child's welfare under current arrangements. Parents can agree to change arrangements informally without returning to court, provided both consent. If they cannot agree, either parent can apply to the court for a variation. Before applying, most people must attend a MIAM. The court will consider whether there has been a material change in circumstances and whether the proposed variation is in the child's best interests. Mediation can help parents discuss proposed changes constructively before resorting to a court application. Changes agreed through mediation can be recorded and, if needed, formalised through a consent order. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/children/change-child-arrangements-order --- ## Supervised Contact Supervised contact is an arrangement where a child spends time with a parent under the oversight of a third party. It is usually put in place when there are concerns about the child's safety or welfare during contact, such as allegations of domestic abuse, substance misuse, or a lack of relationship between parent and child. Supervision can be provided by a trusted family member, a professional supervisor, or a child contact centre. Contact centres are neutral, safe environments staffed by trained workers. Supervised contact may be ordered by the court or agreed between parents as a temporary measure while concerns are addressed. Supervised contact is not intended to be permanent. The goal is usually to build or rebuild the relationship between parent and child, with a view to moving toward unsupervised contact when it is safe and appropriate to do so. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/children/supervised-contact --- ## Child Arrangements and Domestic Abuse When domestic abuse is a factor in child arrangements, the court must prioritise the safety of the child and the non-abusive parent. The court considers all forms of abuse — physical, emotional, psychological, financial, and coercive control — when making decisions about where a child lives and how contact takes place. CAFCASS carries out safeguarding checks at the start of any court application. If abuse is identified, the court may order a fact-finding hearing to establish what has happened before making any decisions about contact. Protective measures may include supervised contact, no direct contact, or conditions attached to a child arrangements order. Specialist support is available from organisations such as the National Domestic Abuse Helpline, Women's Aid, and Refuge. A MIAM exemption applies where there is evidence of domestic abuse, meaning the applicant can apply directly to court without attending mediation. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/children/child-arrangements-domestic-abuse --- ## Grandparents and Child Arrangements Grandparents in England and Wales do not have automatic legal rights to see their grandchildren. Unlike parents, grandparents must first apply to the court for permission (called "leave") before they can make a formal application for a child arrangements order. The court considers several factors when deciding whether to grant leave, including the nature of the grandparent's relationship with the child, the risk that the application might disrupt the child's life, and whether the application has a reasonable prospect of success. If leave is granted, the grandparent can then apply for a child arrangements order setting out contact time. Family mediation can often help resolve grandparent contact disputes without going to court. Mediation provides a neutral space for parents and grandparents to discuss the child's needs and agree practical arrangements. Many grandparents find mediation less adversarial and more effective than court proceedings. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/children/grandparents-child-arrangements --- ## Relocating with Children After Separation If you want to move with your children after separation — whether within the UK or abroad — you generally need the consent of everyone with parental responsibility, or a court order granting permission. Moving without proper consent or a court order can have serious legal consequences, including the court ordering the child's return. For international relocation, the Hague Convention on International Child Abduction applies. If a parent removes a child from England and Wales without consent, the other parent can apply for the child's return. For domestic relocation within the UK, the legal requirements depend on whether there is an existing child arrangements order in place. The court considers relocation applications using the welfare checklist, with the child's best interests as the paramount concern. Factors include the reasons for the move, the impact on the child's relationship with the other parent, and the proposed arrangements for maintaining contact. Mediation can help parents discuss relocation plans constructively before the matter reaches court. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/children/relocating-with-children --- ## Financial Settlements Explained A financial settlement is an agreement about how finances are dealt with after separation or divorce. It covers how assets, income, and financial responsibilities are organised going forward. Issues typically considered include property and housing, savings and investments, pensions, income and outgoings, and debts and financial responsibilities. People reach financial settlements in different ways — some agree directly, others use mediation, and court is usually a last resort. Mediation provides a structured, neutral space to identify financial issues, share relevant information, and explore options. The mediator does not give financial advice or decide outcomes. Financial settlements reached through discussion or mediation are usually not legally binding on their own but can be formalised through a consent order. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/finances/financial-settlements-explained --- ## Property and the Family Home For many people, concerns about the family home are one of the most stressful parts of separation or divorce. The family home is often closely linked to stability and security, children's routines, and emotional attachment. It is very common for worries about housing to feel overwhelming during separation. The term "family home" usually refers to the main property where the family has been living, which may be owned jointly, owned by one person, or rented. When people discuss the family home, they often consider housing needs going forward, children's living arrangements, affordability and ongoing costs, and whether there are other properties or housing options. There is no single approach that applies to every family. Where children are involved, housing discussions often focus on maintaining stability for children and proximity to school, friends, and support networks. Property discussions can differ depending on whether the home is owned or rented. Some people explore temporary arrangements before making longer-term decisions. Family mediation can provide a structured, neutral space to talk about property and housing. A mediator can help people identify the housing issues that need discussion, explore different options, and keep conversations focused and constructive. The mediator does not decide outcomes or give legal advice. Disagreement about property is common, and mediation can help people explore options calmly. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/finances/property-and-the-family-home --- ## Divorce in England and Wales Since April 2022, divorce in England and Wales is no-fault — you no longer need to blame your spouse. You simply state the marriage has irretrievably broken down. You can apply online or by post, either alone (sole application) or together (joint application). You must have been married for at least 12 months. A court fee applies. The minimum legal timeframe is around 26 weeks (6 months): a mandatory 20-week reflection period after the application is issued, plus at least 6 weeks before the final order. Many people use this time to discuss child arrangements and financial disclosure, often through mediation. The conditional order (formerly decree nisi) confirms the court sees no legal reason the divorce cannot proceed, but the marriage is not yet ended. The final order (formerly decree absolute) legally ends the marriage. Divorce only legally ends the marriage. Arrangements for children, finances, property, and pensions must be dealt with separately, often through mediation or court applications. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/divorce/divorce-uk --- ## Uncontested Divorce An uncontested divorce usually means that both people agree to divorce and do not dispute the divorce itself. It does not necessarily mean that all other issues have already been resolved. Matters relating to children and finances are often dealt with separately. Even when a divorce is described as uncontested, people may still need to agree on arrangements for children, financial matters, and practical arrangements following separation. People often reach uncontested outcomes by communicating openly where possible, using family mediation, and obtaining legal advice alongside discussions. Family mediation provides a neutral space to discuss children's arrangements, financial matters, and practical next steps. Mediation can help people explore options and work toward agreements without court proceedings. Financial matters are not automatically resolved by an uncontested divorce. Many people use mediation or legal advice to discuss financial settlements, property, pensions or debts. An uncontested approach may be difficult where communication has broken down completely, there are safety concerns, or agreement cannot be reached despite support. Court remains an option where needed. Even in an uncontested divorce, most people are expected to attend a MIAM before applying to court about children or finances. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/divorce/uncontested-divorce-explained --- ## Shuttle Mediation Shuttle mediation allows each person to be in separate rooms (or connected separately online) while the mediator moves between them. This format is used when direct communication is difficult or inappropriate, such as in cases involving high conflict or power imbalance. The mediator facilitates discussion without the parties being face to face. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/family-mediation/shuttle-mediation --- ## Online Mediation Online mediation is conducted via video call, offering the same structured process as in-person mediation. It provides flexibility for those who cannot attend in person due to distance, childcare, work commitments, or other practical reasons. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/family-mediation/online-mediation --- ## Child Inclusive Mediation Child inclusive mediation gives children the opportunity to share their views with a specially trained mediator. It is not about putting children in the middle of a dispute but about ensuring their voice is heard. The mediator feeds back themes (not specific statements) to help parents understand their child's perspective. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/family-mediation/child-inclusive-mediation --- ## Mediation Voucher Scheme The Family Mediation Voucher Scheme is a government-funded initiative that provides up to £500 toward the cost of family mediation for eligible cases involving children. It is available through participating mediators and is designed to make mediation more accessible. The voucher covers mediation sessions, not the initial MIAM. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/family-mediation/mediation-voucher --- ## C100 Form Explained The C100 is the application form used to apply to the family court for a child arrangements order. It covers who a child lives with and spends time with. Before submitting a C100, most applicants must attend a MIAM unless an exemption applies. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/resources/c100-explained --- ## Form E Explained Form E is a financial disclosure form used in divorce and financial remedy proceedings. It requires both parties to provide a full and honest picture of their finances, including property, income, pensions, savings, and debts. It is a key document in financial proceedings. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/resources/form-e-explained --- ## Applying to Family Court Before applying to family court about children or finances, most people must attend a MIAM. The court process involves submitting an application, attending hearings, and following set procedures. Court is typically considered a last resort when agreement cannot be reached through mediation or direct discussion. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/court/applying-to-family-court-explained --- ## What Happens After You Apply to Court Applying to the family court can feel like a significant step. Many people feel anxious after submitting a court application. Understanding the general process can help reduce uncertainty. After an application is submitted, the court receives and reviews the application, the other person is notified, and the court decides what the next steps should be. This initial stage may take some time. The court usually contacts both parties to explain what will happen next, whether any further information is needed, and what type of hearing or process may follow. Instructions are usually provided in writing. Depending on the case, the court may arrange one or more hearings or meetings focused on understanding the issues. Not all cases require multiple hearings, and some are resolved before reaching that stage. During the process, people may be asked to provide information, attend hearings or meetings, and consider alternative ways of resolving issues. Mediation can still be used after a court application has been made. Some people use mediation to resolve issues alongside court proceedings, narrow the matters the court needs to decide, or reach agreement before further hearings. Even after applying to court, courts may continue to encourage mediation where appropriate. How long the court process takes varies depending on the complexity of the issues and the court's schedule. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/court/what-happens-after-you-apply-to-court --- ## What to Do When You Separate When you first separate, practical steps include understanding your financial situation, considering housing arrangements, thinking about arrangements for children, and seeking emotional support. Many people attend a MIAM early to understand their options before situations become more difficult. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/separation/what-to-do-when-you-separate --- ## What Happens at a MIAM During a MIAM, a qualified family mediator explains the mediation process, discusses your situation at a high level, and assesses whether mediation may be suitable. The meeting is confidential and usually lasts around 45 minutes to one hour. You attend separately from the other person. The mediator will explain your options, including mediation, and answer any questions. You are not committed to anything by attending. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/miam/what-happens-at-a-miam --- ## How to Book a MIAM You can book a MIAM by contacting a qualified family mediator directly. Many mediators offer online booking. You do not need a solicitor to arrange a MIAM. When booking, you will usually be asked for basic details about your situation so the mediator can prepare. MIAMs can take place online or in person, depending on the provider and your preference. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/miam/how-to-book-a-miam --- ## How Long Does a MIAM Take? A MIAM typically lasts between 45 minutes and one hour. The exact length depends on your situation and the questions you have. Some MIAMs may be slightly shorter or longer. The meeting covers an explanation of mediation, an assessment of suitability, and a discussion of your options and next steps. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/miam/how-long-does-a-miam-take --- ## MIAM Cost A MIAM typically costs between £90 and £150 per person. Some providers charge per couple rather than per individual. If you are eligible for Legal Aid, the cost of a MIAM may be covered. The Family Mediation Voucher Scheme does not cover the MIAM itself but may help with subsequent mediation sessions. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/miam/miam-cost --- ## MIAM Online A MIAM can be conducted online via video call. Online MIAMs follow the same process as in-person meetings — the mediator explains mediation, assesses suitability, and discusses your options. Online MIAMs are often more convenient, particularly for people with work commitments, childcare responsibilities, or who live far from a mediator's office. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/miam/miam-online --- ## What Happens If You Skip a MIAM If a MIAM is required and you apply to court without attending, the court may delay your application, ask for an explanation, or direct you to attend a MIAM before proceedings continue. Skipping a required MIAM does not prevent you from applying to court, but the court takes MIAM attendance seriously and may question why you did not attend. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/miam/what-happens-if-you-skip-miam --- ## Missing a MIAM Appointment If you miss a scheduled MIAM appointment, you should contact your mediator as soon as possible to rearrange. Missing a MIAM does not affect your legal rights, but it may delay your ability to apply to court or begin mediation. Most mediators are understanding about rescheduling, though cancellation policies and fees may apply. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/miam/missing-a-miam-appointment --- ## Do Both Parties Attend a MIAM? Each person usually attends a MIAM separately. You do not attend together at this stage. The mediator meets with each person individually to explain mediation, assess suitability, and understand each person's situation. If both people agree to proceed, joint mediation sessions may then be arranged. One person attending a MIAM does not force the other to take part in mediation. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/miam/do-both-parties-attend-miam --- ## Questions Asked at a MIAM During a MIAM, a mediator may ask about your family situation, the issues you would like to resolve, whether there are any safety concerns, and what you hope to achieve. The questions are designed to help the mediator understand your circumstances and assess whether mediation may be suitable. You will not be asked to make any decisions during the meeting. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/miam/questions-asked-at-a-miam --- ## Claiming a MIAM Exemption If you believe a MIAM exemption applies to your situation, you can indicate this on your court application form. The court will review the exemption claim and may ask for supporting evidence. Common exemptions include domestic abuse (with evidence), urgency, child protection involvement, and situations where the other party is in prison or cannot be contacted. A mediator can also help confirm whether an exemption applies. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/miam/claiming-a-miam-exemption --- ## Find an FMC-Registered Mediator To find a qualified family mediator, you can search the Family Mediation Council (FMC) register. FMC-registered mediators meet professional standards and can issue MIAM certificates accepted by the family court. You can search by location or look for mediators offering online services. Not all mediators offer the same services — some specialise in financial matters, child-inclusive mediation, or Legal Aid cases. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/family-mediation/find-an-accredited-mediator --- ## Is Family Mediation Right for Me? Family mediation may be suitable if both people are willing to engage in discussion, there are no serious safety concerns, and you want to resolve issues without going to court. Mediation works best when both parties can communicate, even if that communication is difficult. Mediation is not suitable in every case — for example, where there is domestic abuse, significant power imbalance, or one person is unwilling to participate. A MIAM helps assess suitability. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/family-mediation/is-mediation-right-for-me --- ## What Happens at a Mediation Session? During a mediation session, both people meet with the mediator (in person or online). The mediator sets ground rules, each person has the opportunity to speak, and discussions focus on the issues to be resolved. Sessions typically last around 90 minutes. The mediator helps keep conversations constructive and focused. No decisions are imposed — any agreements are reached by the people involved. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/family-mediation/what-happens-at-a-mediation-session --- ## How to Prepare for Family Mediation Preparation can help mediation sessions be more productive. Useful steps include thinking about the issues you want to discuss, gathering relevant financial documents if finances are involved, considering what outcomes might work for your family, and thinking about your children's needs. You do not need to have all the answers before attending. The mediator will help guide discussions. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/family-mediation/how-to-prepare-for-mediation --- ## What Is Discussed and Agreed in Mediation? Family mediation can cover a wide range of topics including children's living arrangements, time spent with each parent, financial matters such as property, pensions and savings, communication between parents, and practical arrangements following separation. The mediator helps both people explore options and work toward agreements. Agreements reached in mediation are not automatically legally binding but can be formalised through a consent order. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/family-mediation/what-is-discussed-in-mediation --- ## Do Both People Have to Attend Mediation? Mediation is voluntary — both people must agree to take part. If one person refuses, mediation cannot proceed. However, each person usually attends a MIAM separately, even if mediation does not go ahead. If direct communication is difficult, shuttle mediation allows both people to participate without being in the same room. The mediator moves between them. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/family-mediation/do-both-people-attend-mediation --- ## Is Family Mediation Confidential? Family mediation is conducted on a "without prejudice" basis, meaning what is said in mediation cannot usually be used in court. This encourages open and honest discussion. However, there are limits to confidentiality: if there are child safeguarding concerns, if criminal conduct is disclosed, or if both parties agree to share information. The mediator explains confidentiality at the start of the process. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/family-mediation/is-mediation-confidential --- ## How Many Mediation Sessions Does It Take? The number of mediation sessions varies depending on the complexity of the issues and the willingness of both people to engage. Many cases involving children are resolved in 2–4 sessions. Financial matters may take longer, particularly where disclosure and valuation of assets are needed. Sessions are usually spaced a few weeks apart to allow time for reflection and information gathering. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/family-mediation/how-many-mediation-sessions --- ## When Is Mediation Not Suitable? Mediation may not be suitable where there is domestic abuse, a significant power imbalance between the parties, one person is unwilling to participate, there are serious safeguarding concerns involving children, or one person cannot engage meaningfully in discussion. Suitability is assessed during the MIAM. If mediation is not suitable, the mediator can explain alternative options including court. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/family-mediation/when-is-mediation-not-suitable --- ## What Happens After a Mediation Agreement? If an agreement is reached in mediation, the mediator can prepare a written summary of what was agreed, sometimes called a memorandum of understanding. This document is not automatically legally binding. To make it legally binding, both people can take the agreement to a solicitor and apply for a consent order through the court. For child arrangements, many parents follow the agreement informally without a court order. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/family-mediation/what-happens-after-mediation-agreement --- ## How Mediation Helps with Financial Disputes Family mediation can help resolve financial disputes following separation, covering property, savings, pensions, income, debts, and other assets. The mediator helps both people identify the financial issues, share relevant information through financial disclosure, and explore options for dividing assets. Mediation does not replace legal advice — many people obtain independent legal advice alongside mediation. Agreements can be formalised through a consent order. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/family-mediation/mediation-for-financial-disputes --- ## How Successful Is Family Mediation? Research consistently shows that family mediation has high success rates. Studies indicate that around 70% of mediation cases result in full or partial agreement. Success depends on factors including the willingness of both parties, the complexity of issues, and the quality of preparation. Even where full agreement is not reached, mediation often helps narrow the issues in dispute and improve communication. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/family-mediation/mediation-success-rates --- ## How Mediation Helps Resolve Child Arrangements Family mediation provides a structured space for parents to discuss and agree arrangements for their children after separation. Topics may include where children live, how time is divided, holiday arrangements, schooling, and communication. The mediator helps parents focus on the child's needs and explore practical solutions. Child-inclusive mediation can give children a voice in the process. Agreements can be recorded in a parenting plan. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/family-mediation/mediation-for-child-arrangements --- ## What If the Other Person Refuses Mediation? If your ex-partner or the other person refuses to engage with mediation, you still have options. Mediation is voluntary — it cannot be forced. However, the MIAM (Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting) is an individual appointment, and you can attend yours regardless of the other person's position. After your MIAM, the mediator will contact the other person to invite them. If they decline, the mediator can issue FM1 certificates so you can proceed with a court application. Courts take a dim view of unreasonable refusal to engage with mediation, and it can be a factor in costs decisions. Domestic abuse concerns are handled separately and may qualify for MIAM exemptions. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/family-mediation/other-person-refuses-mediation --- ## What Happens If My Ex Refuses Mediation? If your ex refuses mediation, you still have options. Mediation in England and Wales is voluntary and cannot be legally forced. However, a MIAM is required before most family court applications. You can attend your own MIAM independently — your FM1 certificate is issued to you regardless of the other person's position. After your MIAM, the mediator contacts your ex on your behalf. If they decline, the refusal is recorded and you can proceed to court. Courts can make costs orders against parties who unreasonably refuse to engage with mediation. Shuttle mediation may be an option where direct sessions are too difficult. Refusal may be justified in cases involving domestic abuse, significant power imbalance, or previous failed mediation attempts. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/family-mediation/ex-refuses-mediation --- ## Communication After Separation Maintaining effective communication after separation is important for children's wellbeing. Parents can help by keeping conversations focused on the children, avoiding conflict in front of children, using written communication where direct conversation is difficult, and being flexible and respectful. Family mediation can help parents establish communication patterns that work for their situation. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/children/communication-after-separation --- ## Holiday Arrangements Planning holidays and special occasions after separation requires clear communication between parents. Topics to consider include school holidays, Christmas and other celebrations, birthdays, and travel abroad. A parenting plan can help by setting out agreed arrangements in advance. Family mediation can help parents discuss and agree holiday arrangements in a structured way, focusing on the children's needs. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/children/holiday-arrangements --- ## What Can Be Included in a Financial Settlement? A financial settlement following separation or divorce can cover a wide range of matters including the family home and other property, savings and investments, pensions, income and maintenance, business assets, and debts. The aim is to achieve a fair outcome based on the circumstances of both parties. Family mediation can help identify what needs to be discussed and explore options for resolution. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/finances/what-can-be-included --- ## Debts and Liabilities Debts and financial liabilities are an important part of any financial settlement during separation or divorce. Joint debts remain the responsibility of both parties regardless of separation. Types of debt to consider include mortgages, personal loans, credit cards, overdrafts, and hire purchase agreements. Mediation can help both people understand the full picture of debts and discuss how they should be managed going forward. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/finances/debts-and-liabilities --- ## Divorce Without Going to Court Many aspects of divorce and separation can be resolved without contested court proceedings. Mediation, direct negotiation, and collaborative law offer alternative approaches. While the divorce itself requires a court process (applying for the divorce order), decisions about children and finances can often be agreed through mediation and formalised with a consent order, avoiding the need for contested hearings. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/divorce/divorce-without-going-to-court --- ## Do You Need a Solicitor for Divorce? Whether you need a solicitor depends on your circumstances. Many people manage the divorce application process themselves, particularly with no-fault divorce. However, legal advice is often recommended for financial matters, complex property arrangements, pension sharing, or situations involving domestic abuse. A solicitor can also help formalise mediation agreements into consent orders. Some people use a solicitor for specific tasks rather than full representation. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/divorce/do-you-need-a-solicitor --- ## Mediation Before Divorce Many people consider mediation before or alongside divorce proceedings. Mediation can help resolve practical matters such as children's arrangements and finances while the legal divorce process runs in parallel. The 26-week minimum divorce timeframe provides an opportunity to use mediation constructively. A MIAM is usually required before applying to court about children or finances, even if the divorce itself is straightforward. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/divorce/mediation-before-divorce --- ## What Is a MIAM Certificate? (Court Context) A MIAM certificate is a document issued by a qualified family mediator confirming that a person has attended a MIAM. It is typically required when applying to the family court for child arrangements or financial orders. The certificate shows the court that mediation has been considered. If a MIAM exemption applies, this is usually indicated on the court application form instead. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/court/what-is-a-miam-certificate --- ## Is Mediation Compulsory Before Court? Mediation itself is not compulsory, but attending a MIAM usually is before applying to family court for child arrangements or financial orders. The MIAM assesses whether mediation is suitable. If mediation is not suitable or one person refuses, you can still apply to court. The court expects people to have considered mediation, and a MIAM certificate or valid exemption is needed for most applications. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/court/is-mediation-compulsory-before-court --- ## Can You Refuse Mediation? Yes, mediation is voluntary and you cannot be forced to take part. However, most people are expected to attend a MIAM before applying to court. At the MIAM, the mediator assesses suitability and explains options. If you or the other person decides not to proceed with mediation, a MIAM certificate can still be issued allowing you to apply to court. Courts may ask why mediation was not attempted. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/court/can-you-refuse-mediation --- ## Going to Court Without Mediation It is possible to go to court without mediation, but you usually need to attend a MIAM first or demonstrate that a valid exemption applies. Courts expect people to have considered mediation before applying. If you proceed to court, the process involves submitting an application, attending hearings, and following court procedures. Court is typically slower, more expensive, and more stressful than mediation. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/court/going-to-court-without-mediation --- ## Ignoring Court Proceedings If you receive court papers and do not respond, the court may proceed without your input. Ignoring court proceedings does not make them go away. The court can make orders in your absence, which you will be expected to follow. If you have received court papers, it is important to seek advice promptly. Responding to court proceedings ensures your views are heard. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/court/ignoring-court-proceedings --- ## How Courts View Refusal to Mediate Family courts in England and Wales operate under a framework that actively promotes non-court dispute resolution. Practice Direction 3A, the Family Procedure Rules 2010, and successive judicial guidance all reflect a strong policy preference for mediation and other alternatives to litigation. Judges are required to consider at every stage whether non-court dispute resolution is appropriate. Unreasonable refusal to mediate can result in adverse costs orders against the refusing party. An adverse costs order requires the party against whom it is made to pay a proportion — or all — of the other party's legal costs. This applies even if the refusing party wins on the main issue of the case. The court assesses reasonableness on the facts of each case. Bare refusals with no explanation, strategic delay, and claiming mediation cannot work without having tried it are generally treated as unreasonable. Evidence of domestic abuse, genuine safety concerns, significant power imbalances, and previous failed mediation attempts are generally accepted as reasonable justifications. Courts cannot order parties to participate in mediation itself. However, they can require attendance at a MIAM, adjourn proceedings until mediation has been attempted, and make costs orders that incentivise cooperation with dispute resolution. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/court/refusing-mediation-court-view --- ## Telling Children About Separation Telling children about separation is one of the hardest conversations parents face. Key principles include telling children together where possible, using age-appropriate language, reassuring children that the separation is not their fault, avoiding blame or negative comments about the other parent, and being honest about what will change while emphasising what will stay the same. Children need ongoing reassurance and the opportunity to ask questions. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/separation/telling-children-about-separation --- ## Need a MIAM Quickly? If you need a MIAM urgently — for example because of an imminent court deadline — many mediators offer appointments at short notice, including online. Contact a qualified mediator directly to explain your situation. Some providers offer same-day or next-day appointments. If genuine urgency exists, a MIAM exemption may apply, but this depends on the specific circumstances. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/urgent/need-a-miam-quickly --- ## Quick FAQs Quick answers to the most common questions about MIAMs, mediation, costs, and the court process. Topics include what a MIAM is, whether you need one, how much mediation costs, whether mediation is legally binding, and what happens if the other person refuses to attend. This page provides brief, direct answers with links to more detailed information. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/resources/quick-faq --- ## Family Mediation Glossary A plain-English glossary of key terms used in family mediation, court proceedings, and separation. Definitions cover terms such as MIAM, consent order, child arrangements order, financial remedy, shuttle mediation, without prejudice, parenting plan, and more. Each term includes a clear definition and a link to further reading where available. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/resources/family-mediation-glossary --- ## Free Resources A collection of free downloadable guides and templates to help people navigating separation, divorce, and family mediation. Resources include a parenting plan template, financial disclosure checklist, and guides to key court forms. All resources are designed to be practical and easy to use. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/resources/free-resources --- ## Useful Links A curated list of external UK support resources for people going through separation or divorce. Includes links to GOV.UK, Citizens Advice, the Family Mediation Council, National Family Mediation, Cafcass, and other organisations that provide guidance, support, and practical help. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/resources/useful-links --- ## Parenting Plan Template A structured template to help parents create a parenting plan after separation. The template covers where children will live, time with each parent, school routines, holidays and special occasions, communication between parents, and decision-making about important matters. It can be completed independently or with the support of a mediator. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/resources/parenting-plan-template --- ## Financial Disclosure Checklist A practical checklist of documents and information needed for financial disclosure in mediation or court proceedings. Covers income, property, savings, pensions, debts, and expenses. Financial disclosure ensures both parties have a clear picture of the financial situation before making decisions about settlements. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/resources/financial-disclosure-checklist --- ## Form A Explained Form A is the application form that starts the financial remedy process in the family court. It is used when divorcing couples cannot agree on financial matters and need the court to make a decision. Filing Form A triggers a formal process including financial disclosure (Form E), negotiation, and potentially a final hearing. Many people try mediation before reaching this stage. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/resources/form-a-explained --- ## Court Process Overview A visual and practical overview of the family court process from application to final hearing. The guide explains the key stages including submitting an application, the first hearing (FHDRA), dispute resolution hearings, and final hearings. Understanding the court process can help reduce anxiety and uncertainty about what to expect. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/resources/court-process-overview --- ## Mediation for Child Arrangements (Resource Guide) A detailed resource guide explaining how family mediation can help resolve disputes about child arrangements. Covers what child arrangements include, how mediation works for children-related issues, the role of a parenting plan, safety considerations, and child-inclusive mediation. Also explains the C100 form and when court may be necessary. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/resources/mediation-for-child-arrangements --- ## Understanding Financial Settlements An in-depth guide to financial settlements during divorce and separation. Explains what factors courts consider when dividing assets, including the needs of both parties, the welfare of children, the length of the marriage, and contributions made by each person. Covers property, pensions, income, and debts. Mediation can help couples reach financial agreements without contested court proceedings. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/resources/understanding-financial-settlements --- ## Pensions and Separation How pensions are treated during divorce and separation in England and Wales. Options include pension sharing orders, pension offsetting, and pension attachment orders. Pensions are often one of the most valuable assets in a marriage and should be considered carefully during financial discussions. Professional pension advice may be recommended alongside mediation or legal advice. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/resources/pensions-and-separation --- ## Property and the Family Home (Resource Guide) Detailed guidance on property decisions during separation, including selling the family home, one person buying out the other, transferring ownership, or delaying sale until children are older (Mesher order). Decisions depend on financial circumstances, children's needs, and housing options. Mediation can help couples discuss property arrangements constructively. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/resources/property-and-the-family-home --- ## Talking to Children About Separation (Resource Guide) Guidance for parents on discussing separation with children of different ages. Younger children need simple reassurance; older children may want more detail and the opportunity to ask questions. Key principles include being honest, avoiding blame, maintaining routines, and allowing children to express their feelings. This guide provides age-appropriate suggestions and practical tips. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/resources/talking-to-children-about-separation --- ## Communication After Separation (Resource Guide) Tips for maintaining healthy communication between separated parents, focused on children's needs. Covers practical strategies including using neutral language, keeping children out of adult disputes, choosing appropriate communication methods, and being flexible. Good communication helps reduce conflict and supports children's adjustment to new arrangements. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/resources/communication-after-separation --- ## Cross-Border Mediation Information about family mediation when families span different countries. Cross-border cases can involve different legal systems, cultural considerations, and practical challenges such as time zones and travel. Mediation can help families navigate these complexities and reach agreements that work across borders. International mediation may involve specialist mediators with experience in cross-border family disputes. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/resources/cross-border-mediation --- ## Grandparents and Family Mediation How mediation can help grandparents maintain relationships with grandchildren after family separation. Grandparents do not have automatic legal rights to contact, but courts recognise the importance of these relationships. Mediation can provide a space for grandparents and parents to discuss contact arrangements. If mediation is not possible, grandparents can apply to court for a child arrangements order with the court's permission. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/resources/grandparents-and-family-mediation --- ## LGBTQ+ and Single Parents Mediation information for LGBTQ+ families and single parents navigating separation. The mediation process works the same way regardless of family structure, gender identity, or sexual orientation. Issues covered can include child arrangements, financial matters, and communication. Mediators are trained to work with diverse family structures and ensure all participants feel respected and heard. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/resources/lgbtq-single-parents --- ## Family Mediation Week Family Mediation Week is an annual awareness campaign (26–30 January 2026) organised by the Family Mediation Council to promote family mediation as an alternative to court. During the week, mediators, organisations, and support services raise awareness of mediation through events, social media, and public engagement. The campaign highlights the benefits of mediation including lower cost, faster resolution, and less adversarial outcomes compared to court. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/resources/family-mediation-week --- ## MIAM Safeguarding Concerns If domestic abuse or safeguarding concerns are part of your situation, the mediator assesses safety at the MIAM through a standard screening process. This covers domestic abuse, coercive control, power imbalances, and child safeguarding concerns. If mediation is assessed as unsuitable, the mediator issues FM1 certificates noting unsuitability. This is a valid outcome accepted by the court. A MIAM exemption for domestic abuse may allow you to apply to court without a MIAM if you have evidence such as a police report, GP letter, or domestic abuse organisation referral. Confidentiality has limits: where a child is at risk, the mediator has a statutory duty to report. Specialist support is available from the National Domestic Abuse Helpline (0808 2000 247), Women's Aid, ManKind Initiative, Galop, CAFCASS, and Citizens Advice. Source: https://thefamilymediationproject.co.uk/miam/miam-safeguarding-concerns --- ## My Ex Won't Respond — What Can I Do? When an ex partner stops responding entirely, it does not close off your legal options. You can attend your own MIAM without their knowledge or cooperation — the mediator will contact them on your behalf. If they still do not respond, your FM1 certificate is issued and you can proceed with a court application. Practical steps include documenting every contact attempt, trying different communication channels, using a mutual contact, or sending a solicitor's letter. Court proceedings can be served on the other party directly even if they refuse all personal communication. If safety concerns are involved, contact the National Domestic Abuse Helpline (0808 2000 247) before taking further steps. 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