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When parents separate, arrangements often need to be made about where children live, how much time they spend with each parent, and how decisions are made.
This page explains what child arrangements are, how they are usually decided, and the options available to parents.
What are child arrangements?
"Child arrangements" is a general term used to describe the practical arrangements for a child after parents separate. This can include:
- where a child lives
- how much time they spend with each parent
- how contact is managed
- how parents communicate about the child
The focus is always on the child's wellbeing.
How are child arrangements decided?
Many parents agree child arrangements between themselves. Others use family mediation to help discuss and agree arrangements in a supported environment. Court is usually a last resort when agreement cannot be reached.
What is a child arrangements order?
A child arrangements order is a type of court order that sets out arrangements for a child. It may cover:
- who a child lives with
- how and when a child spends time with each parent
Not all families need a court order.
The role of mediation in child arrangements
Family mediation can help parents discuss child arrangements calmly and constructively. The mediator helps parents focus on the child's needs and explore practical options.
Learn how family mediation worksParenting plans
Some parents choose to use a parenting plan to record agreed arrangements. A parenting plan can cover:
- day-to-day routines
- holidays and special occasions
- communication between parents
Parenting plans are flexible and can be updated as children grow.
What if we can't agree?
It is common for parents to struggle to agree at first. Mediation can help create space for discussion. If agreement cannot be reached, other options may be explored.
The role of the MIAM
Before applying to court about child arrangements, many parents are asked to attend a MIAM. The MIAM explains mediation and assesses whether it may be suitable.
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Do children decide where they live?
Children's views are often considered, especially as they get older. However, it is the parents — or if necessary, the court — who make the final decision, always with the child's best interests in mind.
Do arrangements have to be equal?
There is no legal requirement for time to be split equally. Arrangements are usually based on what works best for the child and the family's circumstances.
Can arrangements change over time?
Yes. Many families find that arrangements evolve as children grow older or circumstances change. Flexibility is often helpful.
Quick answers to common questions
Have more questions about child arrangements, mediation, or the court process? Our FAQ page provides quick answers to the most common queries.
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Making arrangements for children after separation can be challenging.
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