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Many people are asked whether they need to attend a MIAM before applying to family court.
The answer depends on your situation and whether any exemptions apply. This page explains when a MIAM is usually required and when it may not be.
The short answer
In England and Wales, most people are expected to attend a MIAM before applying to court for:
- child arrangements
- financial orders following separation or divorce
However, there are important exceptions, and not everyone is required to attend.
When a MIAM is usually required
You will usually be expected to attend a MIAM if:
- you are applying to family court about children, or
- you are applying to court about finances after separation or divorce
The purpose is to show the court that you have considered mediation as an alternative to court.
When a MIAM may not be required
There are situations where attending a MIAM may not be appropriate or required.
- Domestic abuse concerns
- Urgent applications
- Certain existing court proceedings
- Where mediation is clearly unsuitable
These situations are known as MIAM exemptions.
What if I'm not sure?
Many people are unsure whether they need to attend a MIAM. This is very common.
Speaking to a qualified family mediator can help clarify whether a MIAM is required in your situation.
Attending a MIAM does not mean you must proceed with mediation.
Do both people need to attend a MIAM?
Usually, each person attends a MIAM separately. You do not attend together at this stage.
One person attending does not force the other to take part in mediation.
What happens if I don't attend a required MIAM?
If a MIAM is required and you apply to court without attending, the court may:
- ask for an explanation
- delay proceedings
- direct you to attend a MIAM later
Understanding the requirement early can help avoid delays.
Quick answers to common questions
Have more questions about MIAMs, exemptions, or the court process? Our FAQ page provides quick answers to the most common queries.
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