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Child-inclusive mediation is a form of family mediation that gives children the opportunity to have their voices heard, where appropriate. This page explains how child-inclusive mediation works, when it may be considered, and how children's wellbeing is protected throughout the process.
What is child-inclusive mediation?
Child-inclusive mediation is a specialist form of mediation where a trained mediator may speak directly with a child. The purpose is to help parents understand their child's perspective — not to ask children to make decisions.
Children are never asked to choose between parents or decide outcomes.
Why child-inclusive mediation is used
Child-inclusive mediation may be considered where:
- Parents want to better understand how separation is affecting their child
- Children may benefit from having their views acknowledged
- Parents are making decisions that directly affect their child's day-to-day life
The focus is always on supporting children's wellbeing.
How child-inclusive mediation works
Child-inclusive mediation usually follows a structured process:
- Parents attend mediation and discuss whether child-inclusive mediation may be appropriate
- A specially trained mediator speaks with the child separately
- The mediator shares agreed feedback with the parents
The child does not attend mediation sessions with their parents.
Consent and safeguarding
Child-inclusive mediation is only considered where:
- It is appropriate for the child's age and understanding
- The child agrees to take part
- Both parents give consent
Mediators follow safeguarding practices designed to protect children at all times.
What child-inclusive mediation is not
- It is not counselling or therapy
- It is not an assessment of parenting
- It is not about asking children to decide arrangements
- It does not replace parental responsibility
Is child-inclusive mediation right for every family?
Child-inclusive mediation is not suitable in every situation. Factors such as a child's age, emotional wellbeing, family dynamics, and safety considerations all affect suitability.
Deciding not to involve children directly can be the right decision.
The role of the MIAM
Whether child-inclusive mediation is appropriate is usually discussed during the MIAM. The MIAM allows parents to ask questions and understand the different mediation options available.
Common questions about child-inclusive mediation
Will my child be put under pressure?
No. Mediators are specially trained to speak with children in a supportive, age-appropriate way. Children are not pressured to say anything or take sides.
Will my child have to speak to both parents?
No. The child speaks only to the trained mediator in a separate meeting. They do not attend sessions with their parents.
Can my child say no?
Yes. A child's participation is always voluntary. If a child does not want to take part, their wishes are respected.
What are the next steps?
Learn more about family mediation
Understand the basics of mediation
Learn how mediation works step by step
See the mediation process explained
Take time to consider
Think about whether child-inclusive mediation feels appropriate
When you're ready
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Protecting children's wellbeing is central to family mediation. Understanding your options can help you make informed, thoughtful decisions for your family.