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A parenting plan is a written agreement that helps separated parents organise how they will care for their children. This page explains what a parenting plan is, what it can include, and how it can help parents focus on their children's needs.
What is a parenting plan?
A parenting plan is a practical, child-focused document created by parents. It sets out how parents intend to care for their children following separation. Parenting plans are created by parents themselves, often with support from a mediator.
Parenting plans are usually informal and flexible.
What can a parenting plan include?
Parenting plans can cover a wide range of everyday issues, including:
- Where children live
- Time spent with each parent
- School routines and activities
- Holidays and special occasions
- Communication between parents
- Decision-making about important matters
Not every plan includes every topic — parents choose what feels helpful.
Why parents use parenting plans
Many parents find parenting plans helpful because they:
- Provide clarity and structure
- Reduce misunderstandings
- Help keep children's routines consistent
- Support calmer communication
Parenting plans and mediation
Parenting plans are often created during family mediation. A mediator can help parents:
- Talk through different options
- Focus on the child's needs
- Record agreements clearly and neutrally
Are parenting plans legally binding?
Parenting plans are usually not legally binding. They are designed to be flexible and reflect what parents believe will work best for their children. Some parents choose to formalise arrangements later, but this is not always necessary.
Can parenting plans change over time?
Yes. Children's needs change as they grow, and parenting plans can be updated. Many parents review their plans periodically to make sure they still work for everyone.
What if we can't agree on a parenting plan?
It is common for parents to find agreement difficult at first. Mediation can help parents discuss different perspectives and explore options in a supported environment. If agreement is not possible, other options can be considered.
The role of the MIAM
Before mediation begins, parents usually attend a MIAM. The MIAM explains how mediation works and whether it may help with parenting arrangements.
Common questions about parenting plans
Do parenting plans have to be written down?
No, but many parents find that writing things down helps reduce confusion and provides a clear reference point.
Can we create a parenting plan without mediation?
Yes. Parents can create a plan together if they are able to communicate and agree. Mediation can help where this is more difficult.
What if our circumstances change?
Parenting plans can be reviewed and updated as children grow or circumstances change. Many parents build in regular reviews.
What are the next steps?
Learn more about child arrangements
Understand arrangements after separation
Learn how mediation works step by step
See the mediation process explained
Take time to think
Consider what may work best for your child
When you're ready
If you decide you would like support creating a parenting plan, you can book a MIAM or explore mediation through our trusted digital service.
Book a MIAM onlineDelivered by qualified family mediators in line with UK mediation standards.
Parenting plans are about supporting children and helping parents move forward. Taking time to think things through can be a positive step for the whole family.