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After separation, school holidays and special occasions can become a source of uncertainty or conflict. This page explains how holiday arrangements are commonly approached, what parents often consider, and how planning ahead can help children feel secure.
What are holiday arrangements?
Holiday arrangements describe how parents organise time with their children during:
- School holidays
- Public holidays
- Special occasions such as birthdays or religious events
These arrangements sit alongside day-to-day child arrangements.
There is no single "right" way to organise holidays.
Common approaches to holiday arrangements
Parents use different approaches depending on their circumstances. Examples include:
- Splitting holidays equally
- Alternating holidays each year
- Dividing longer holidays into blocks
- Prioritising certain traditions or events
What works best often depends on children's ages, routines, and family traditions.
Christmas, religious and special occasions
Special occasions can carry strong emotions for parents and children. Some parents choose to:
- Alternate Christmas Day each year
- Share time across Christmas Eve and Christmas Day
- Prioritise religious observance where relevant
Planning in advance can help reduce stress for everyone.
Travel and holidays abroad
When children travel during holidays, parents often discuss:
- Dates and destinations
- Contact while away
- Practical arrangements such as passports
Clear communication can help avoid misunderstandings.
Holiday arrangements and parenting plans
Many parents include holiday arrangements in a parenting plan. This can help provide clarity and reduce repeated discussions each year.
What if we can't agree on holiday arrangements?
Disagreements about holidays are common, especially early after separation. Family mediation can help parents:
- Talk through different options
- Focus on children's needs
- Plan arrangements in advance
Keeping children at the centre
When planning holiday arrangements, many parents find it helpful to consider:
- Children's routines and friendships
- Opportunities for rest and enjoyment
- The importance of consistency and reassurance
Common questions about holiday arrangements
Do holidays have to be split equally?
No. There is no rule requiring equal division. What matters most is finding arrangements that work for children and are practical for both parents.
Can arrangements change as children grow?
Yes. As children get older, their needs, preferences, and social lives may change. Many parents revisit holiday arrangements over time.
What if plans need to change at short notice?
Flexibility can be helpful, but clear communication is important. Many parents find it useful to discuss how to handle unexpected changes in advance.
What are the next steps?
Learn more about child arrangements
Understand arrangements after separation
Learn how mediation can help with planning
See how mediation supports discussions
Take time to think
Consider what may work best for your child
When you're ready
If you decide you would like support discussing holiday arrangements, you can book a MIAM or explore mediation through our trusted digital service.
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Planning ahead can help holidays feel calmer and more predictable for children. Small steps toward clarity can make a meaningful difference.