What are the steps in the mediation process?

Family mediation usually involves several stages: attending a MIAM first, arranging mediation sessions, participating in mediation discussions, and exploring options and possible outcomes. The pace is flexible and can vary depending on individual needs.

What happens during mediation sessions?

During mediation sessions, each person has the opportunity to speak, the mediator helps keep discussions focused and respectful, and issues relating to children, finances, or both can be discussed. The mediator does not take sides or make decisions.

How does mediation compare to going to court?

Mediation encourages discussion and agreement, while court involves a judge making decisions. Mediation is flexible and voluntary, whereas court follows formal legal procedures.

How family mediation works

Family mediation follows a clear and structured process. This page explains what usually happens, step by step, so you know what to expect and can decide whether mediation may be right for you.

Mediation is a process, not a single meeting

Family mediation usually takes place over a series of stages rather than one conversation. The pace and structure can vary depending on the issues involved and the needs of the people taking part.

Mediation is flexible and designed to move at a manageable pace.

Step 1: The MIAM

Before mediation begins, each person usually attends a MIAM (Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting). The MIAM allows the mediator to:

explain what mediation involves
assess whether mediation may be suitable
answer questions in a confidential setting

Learn more about what a MIAM is

Attending a MIAM does not commit you to mediation.

Step 2: Arranging mediation sessions

If mediation is considered suitable and both people agree to proceed, mediation sessions are arranged. Sessions can take place:

online
in person
using different formats depending on circumstances

Step 3: Mediation sessions

During mediation sessions:

each person has the opportunity to speak
the mediator helps keep discussions focused and respectful
issues relating to children, finances, or both can be discussed

The mediator does not take sides and does not make decisions.

Mediation is voluntary and confidential.

Step 4: Exploring options and possible outcomes

Mediation focuses on exploring options rather than imposing solutions. Where agreements are reached, these can be recorded for future reference.

Reaching agreement is not guaranteed, and not reaching agreement does not mean mediation has failed.

What if mediation does not proceed or comes to an end?

Mediation does not proceed in every case. Sometimes mediation is not suitable, or people decide not to continue. Other options can be discussed where mediation does not go ahead.

How long does family mediation take?

The length of mediation varies. Some people resolve issues in a small number of sessions, while others take longer. Timing depends on the complexity of issues and the willingness to engage.