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If you need to apply to a family court, you will usually need to attend a MIAM first. This guide explains exactly how the booking process works and what to expect from start to finish.
Why You Need a MIAM Before Going to Court
Before making most types of family court application in England and Wales, the law requires you to attend a Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting — known as a MIAM.
A MIAM is a short, private meeting with an accredited family mediator. It is not mediation itself. The mediator explains how mediation works, considers whether it might help in your situation, and assesses whether there are any reasons why mediation would not be appropriate.
You do not attend a MIAM with the other person. Each person has their own separate appointment.
After the MIAM, the mediator issues a certificate — known as an FM1 form. This is what the court requires when you submit your application.
If you are not sure whether you need a MIAM, read our guideWho Arranges the MIAM — You or the Other Person?
You arrange your own MIAM. You do not need the other person's agreement to book, and you do not attend together.
If the other person also wishes to attempt mediation, they may contact the same mediator separately. But the MIAM itself — the information meeting and assessment — is always individual.
You can book and attend a MIAM even if the other person has refused to participate in mediation. The mediator can still issue you a certificate for court.
How to Find an Accredited Mediator
Your mediator must be accredited by the Family Mediation Council (FMC). Using an FMC-accredited mediator ensures the MIAM certificate will be accepted by the court.
There are several ways to find one:
- Use the Family Mediation Council's mediator search tool at familymediationcouncil.org.uk
- Search for 'family mediator' or 'MIAM near me' in your area
- Book through Digital MIAM (digitalmiam.co.uk), which connects you with qualified mediators for online appointments
Always check that the mediator is FMC-accredited before booking. Their certificate may not be accepted by the court otherwise.
What Happens When You Make Contact
Once you have found a mediator, you can usually book by phone, email, or through an online booking system.
The mediator or their office will typically ask a few basic questions at this stage:
- What is the nature of your dispute — child arrangements, financial matters, or both?
- Have you been to court already, or are you looking to apply?
- Are there any safety concerns — for example, domestic abuse?
These questions help the mediator understand your situation before the appointment. They do not make any decisions at this stage.
What Information You Will Need to Provide
For the MIAM itself, you do not need to bring documents or evidence. The mediator is not making any decisions about your case — they are gathering information and assessing whether mediation is suitable.
It is helpful to have a clear sense of:
- The main issues you need to resolve (for example, where the children will live, or how to divide a shared property)
- Whether there are any concerns about safety that might make mediation unsuitable
- Your preferred way of attending — in person or online
If you are eligible for legal aid, let the mediator know at the point of booking. They can tell you whether they offer legally aided MIAMs.
How Much Does a MIAM Cost?
MIAM fees vary by provider, but most accredited mediators charge between £95 and £150 per person for the initial meeting. Some may charge more in central London or if they offer specialist services.
If you receive certain benefits or have a low income, you may qualify for legal aid, which can cover the cost of the MIAM. Read more in our guide:
What Does a MIAM Cost?Even if the other person is not eligible for legal aid, you may still be. Eligibility is assessed individually.
Can You Attend a MIAM Online?
Yes. Many mediators now offer MIAMs by video call, and this has become a common option. Online MIAMs follow the same process as in-person appointments and result in the same certificate.
Online MIAMs are particularly useful if you live far from available mediators, have mobility difficulties, or simply prefer the convenience of attending from home.
Read more about online MIAMsWhat Happens During the MIAM Appointment?
The appointment usually lasts between 45 minutes and one hour, though it can be shorter or longer depending on your circumstances.
During the meeting, the mediator will:
- Explain what family mediation involves and how the process works
- Ask about the issues you are trying to resolve
- Ask about any safety concerns — for example, domestic abuse, child protection concerns, or significant power imbalances
- Assess whether mediation is appropriate for your situation
- Tell you what happens next, whether that is mediation, a referral elsewhere, or the court process
After the MIAM — What Happens Next?
After the MIAM, the mediator will issue a certificate — the FM1 form. This is provided regardless of whether mediation is going ahead. The certificate confirms you have attended the MIAM and is required when making a family court application.
If both of you are willing to try mediation, the mediator will usually arrange the first joint session. If mediation is not suitable or either party declines, the certificate is still issued so that court proceedings can begin.
Read more about what happens after a MIAMHow to Arrange Your MIAM — A Summary
Once you have decided you need a MIAM, the process of arranging one is straightforward. Start by finding an FMC-accredited mediator — you can use the Family Mediation Council's online directory, ask a solicitor for a referral, or search for a provider directly. If you would prefer an online appointment, platforms such as Digital MIAM allow you to book with an accredited mediator without visiting an office.
When you make contact, the mediator or their team will ask a few basic questions to understand your situation and confirm a suitable appointment time. There is no need to prepare documents or evidence at this stage.
After the appointment, the mediator will issue your FM1 certificate — the document required for any family court application. Most providers issue this promptly after the meeting, either by email or post.
If cost is a concern, ask about legal aid eligibility when you first make contact. Many accredited mediators are legal aid providers and can assess your eligibility at the point of booking.
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